Do you ever wonder where the shaming, criticising and sarcasm - ever present in many peoples styles of communication with each other - comes from? Can you think of a few times when you were on the end of such a tirade? Or perhaps when someone else was at the end of a tirade from you? Some parents who were abandoned, neglected or abused as children use this parenting style to an extent with their children. We see the experience and internalising of core shame in relationships

Are you better than average? How do you judge where you are in the world? Other people hold unique skills, abilities, talents, and genes. How do you figure among the large group of people who play and compete in your sport? In sport, we are forever judging where we might be in relation to everyone else. Would it be a wonderful achievement to be better than average? We know from the research that people with above average attractiveness, intelligence and sociability are wealth