Therapeutic Use of Self Research tells us that therapists account for approximately 8% of the variability in psychotherapy outcomes, while the therapeutic relationship explains an additional 15%[1]. Considered together, these figures point to something practitioners across all orientations would do well to take seriously — that who we are as therapists, and how we show up relationally, carries considerable weight in whether clients progress or not. The therapeutic use of self

Do you ever wonder where the shaming, criticising and sarcasm - ever present in many peoples styles of communication with each other - comes from? Can you think of a few times when you were on the end of such a tirade? Or perhaps when someone else was at the end of a tirade from you? Some parents who were abandoned, neglected or abused as children use this parenting style to an extent with their children. We see the experience and internalising of core shame in relationships