Competitive Behaviour in Children Competitive parents like us know the feeling: watching our child melt down after losing a game or needing to be first in every activity. Competition is part of life, from spelling bees to soccer games. Yet, it can become unhealthy quickly. Many of us don't realize this: early difficult experiences in a child's life often cause overly competitive behaviour. That strong need to win might be your child's way of coping with an emotional ache they